When people first meet me, (or you for that matter), they immediately start making one of three decisions. This begins with the very first impression. Face-to-face or through technology.
1. No, I’m not on the same page with you.
2. Yes, I get you and your message and we ARE on the same page and I want to know more.
3. Maybe, I need more time to get to know you, your information and what you’re all about.
Many people that know me know that I, rarely if ever, have a bad day. Seriously. Now I know what some of you are thinking while you’re reading this. “Marvin, don’t give me that “PollyAnna” crapola, (one of Gitomer’s
favorite words) that all is right with you and your world. We know better. We know you have problems.”
My answer: well of course I have “stuff”. We all have “stuff”. We always WILL have “stuff”. But, how quickly you MOVE ON from one pile of “stuff” to the next is my secret life weapon. That weapon – that unique ability that I
have developed, (beginning in 1978) is how I overcome and overachieve.
What I EXPECT is what I GET. I EXPECT much out of myself and I get much out of myself.
* I’m not blessed with height. (I’m a short, round Cajun.)
* I’m not blessed with good looks. (I had the biggest ears in my 4th Grade Class and the picture is on my Facebook to prove it)
* I was not highly educated at Tulane or Harvard. (But I bleed LSU purple & gold)
What do you EXPECT out of yourself? Are you GETTING what you EXPECT? Are you GIVING what you EXPECT?
I will definitely admit that I do have bad “moments” in my days, but I don’t have bad days.
On Oct. 20th of 2007 my daughter & I were riding my Honda Goldwing. It was a gorgeous, sunny, dry day. We decided to take the scenic River Road out of LaPlace, Louisiana (Hwy.44) – instead of taking the interstate. We were listening to Buddy Guy on my iPod. And then in a flash, we were catapulted directly over the front of my Goldwing. A careless, elderly driver had “T-boned” us.
My daughter lay motionless, face down on the asphalt in the lane of oncoming traffic. Immediately I looked down to see the bones in my right wrist displaced and broken from the impact. We both went over the top of his car. We both were heavily armored with proper bike wear. Besides some lower back pain that my daughter had, she is fine. I incurred 32 stiches in my wrist and 2 screws (my joints tell me when it’s going to rain.) The elderly driver is no longer with us.
But here’s the real point. That was NOT A BAD DAY!!!
WHY? Because we still made it home in time to watch LSU beat Auburn!!! 30-24(LSU had the ball in field goal range at the end of the game, but did not use its remaining timeout, instead calling a pass into the end zone,
which went for the winning TD with 1 second left, keeping our national championship hopes alive. By the way, we won the National Championship in 2007 beating Ohio State 38-24. That was the night that the Buckeyes couldn’t spell O-H-I-O with their big flags. My daughter and I were there. That was NOT A BAD DAY, now was it?)
Now — stop and really hear me. IT’S WHAT YOU FOCUS ON THAT MATTERS!! IT’S what you CHOOSE to think that matters!
Quit obsessing about what you don’t have. And start obsessing about what you DO HAVE. Start obsessing about what your OPPORTUNITIES are that you can capitalize on. If you’re in a bad work relationship or you’re in a bad personal relationship, make a MOVE!!! This thing called “LIFE” is not a dress rehearsal. Make a MOVE and stop BITCHING!! Hug the people you love and mean it!! Tell people you love them and mean it!!
Well Marvin, you don’t understand my circumstances.
Really? Well then let’s talk about it. No, really. I’m serious. Let’s set an appointment. 15 minutes. And after 15 minutes, you can make one of three decisions about me.
Yes, No or Maybe. We’ll both be better people after the 15 minutes are completed.
Some homework before we talk.
** What specific tools or skills are you lacking that keeps you “stuck” too long?
** Do you honestly believe that things can change for you without you changing?
** Who do you have in your life that is an Accountability Partner that keeps you moving in the right direction?
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